These are such lovely, whimsical pieces. We'll call it, "What's Your Fancy?" There are so many things you could do with this skirt. It would be great with almost any color tank, flip flops or platforms, a tote or a bright clutch. It works equally well with silver, gold, and even the brassy tone of the duffle. You could dress it up even more by subbing a shinier top and strappy sandals. It's nearly perfect for any daytime occasion.
How do we know if we're good in bed? That's this installment's focus. Carrie dates a recovering alcoholic who becomes addicted to having sex with her. She ends things, but not without wondering if it was really she or the sober sex that he was crazy about. Samantha agrees to fulfill a gay couple's fantasy of making love to a woman, seeing it as the ultimate confirmation of her sexual mastery. However, at the last minute, the couple bails, leaving her doubting her skills. Charlotte's boyfriend, a doctor (oh no!), falls asleep on top of her while they're making love. Distraught, she seeks guidance from a tantric teacher, where she learns a technique that insures her snooze-free sex for life. Miranda buys exotic sheets, in the hopes that they'll jump start her bedroom karma.
This is kind of a strange topic. I say strange, because, unlike Samantha and really all of the girls, being good in bed isn't a top priority. Sure, I don't want to suck, but if someone wasn't completely interested in making love with me one night (okay, even if, in the worst case scenario, he fell asleep), I wouldn't start bawling like Charlotte. Let's face it, there's more to life.
That said, I became curious about the central question: "How do we know?" Since it's nearly impossible to write about SATC without talking about your own sex life (though, God knows I try), I will just say that no one has ever complained. However, is this because I'm good, or because they have loved me? I mean, I don't really judge men in the sack. Well, that's not entirely true. There have been one or two strikeouts, but in general, most men know what they're doing. Anyway, my usual experience has been this: if you like the person, it's good; if you love him, it's great; if, in that rare case, you both love each other equally, well, it's the best. Maybe men aren't that way. Maybe they are. I think with the right person, you'll always think that he or she is the best you've ever had. I'm not sure that's due to how they perform as much as it is about love and your connection together, which I think is 90% of the equation.
Well, I'm keeping today's entry short. Why? First, it's a beautiful day, as opposed to the past four dreary, cloudy, 30-degree days. Second, Hank's going to be home early, and it's our date night--the first we've had in a couple of weeks. That means I need to A. change out of my sweats and wife beater and B. apply to a job or two before he gets here.
Hold onto your hats for the next episode, because let's just say there's a big surprise.
I hope you'll be back. I will.
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ReplyDeleteI agree, 90% of what people consider "good sex" is all due to the connection. Why else would some people think that someone is good in bed, while others consider them lousy? It's all about their connection together (which brings up the question, what came first, the good sex or the good connection?).
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